A couple may go anywhere they agree on during a date, and they may or may not have known (or met) each other before the date. Dating can be an anxiety-inducing event because you don’t necessarily know what to expect, or how you will get along with your date. There are many sources for how to date, there are no clear-cut rules for how to date, or for post-date etiquette. Do you want your wife Asian? Follow these rules…
Consider what you liked and disliked about your date. Make a list of the things you liked about the person, as well as a list of the things you did not like. Decide if there is anything on the list that gives you a definitive answering regarding follow-up.
Assess your level of interest. You may be extremely interested in knowing more about the person, have a passing interest rather than a desire or completely lack any interest in learning more about your date. Remember that people may not always be their natural selves during first dates, so you may want to give someone that you’re not quite sure about a second chance.
Signs of a good first date include regular eye contact, playful flirting, time passing without either party being aware, physical gestures (touching hands, brushing up against each other, etc.), ease of conversation, open body stance, mimicking each others’ body language and speaking of doing things together in the future.
Signs of a bad first date include 1 person or the other talking too much, excessive egocentric talk, bringing up past relationships, extended uncomfortable silences, checking the time, overtly sexual flirting, texting or phoning during the date, closed body language (crossed arms), frequent trips to the restroom, criticism, rudeness to other people, unwarranted affection, lack of response to wanted affection and unexpectedly ending the date early.
If the date ended abruptly, without much of a goodbye or even a walk to the doorway, that may be indicative of a lack of interest. Conversely, if both of you seemed to be stretching the end of the date out, then there may be more there to explore.
When both parties willingly go in for a kiss at the end of a first date, then it is likely that they are both interested in getting to know each other. Conversely, if the date ended with an awkward hug or an unappreciative romantic gesture, then it is likely that either 1 or both of the daters was not interested in advancing the relationship.
Keep in mind that the closing comments of the date can be the decisive factor in regards to how you should act afterward. For example, if you tell your date you will call, then it is up to you to call. Likewise, if your dates ends ambiguously, with no one volunteering follow-through, then you will have to decide how you want to handle things post-date.
Follow up in accordance with what you know about the date. Take into account how you feel about the date, how subjectively successful you think the date was and how the date ended.
If you determine that you are not interested in getting to know the person after your first date, or if you are convinced the date was irreparably unsuccessful, then there is no need to pursue another date. However, it is a good idea to let the person know that you are not interested so as to avoid unwanted follow-up on the other end.
If the date went well and you want to see the other person again, then you may want to contact the other person. There is no official dating how to about when to call back, although 2 to 3 days is a commonly cited timeframe. Prepare what you want to say ahead of time so as to avoid stumbling over your words, and be sure to let the other know that you enjoyed the date and would like to get together again.
If you are interested in a second date, but refuse to make follow-up contact, then you have no choice but to wait for the other to contact you.
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